A female friend of mine, Jessica, used to only like blond-haired, blue-eyed guys. Then she met Lee, a half-Chinese guy, who blew her away from the moment she met him.
I asked her, "But what about the only blonde’s thing?"
"Who cares?" she said, with a huge grin on her face. "Lee is cool, and cocky, and confident, and great. Why would I even think about his hair color?"
Jessica, like many women, had some idea of what she found attractive in guys, but she was willing and open to let those preferences slide when she found someone with the perfect personality for her. Jessica found that what she thought she liked and what she actually liked were two different things. Some women may think that they have to have a guy with a certain trait. They may only date jocks, or guys with black hair, or guys with a certain height. But attraction doesn't work that way.
The lesson of the story is this. DON'T LET A WOMEN'S PREFERENCES AFFECT YOU IN ANY WAY.
Bald? Too short? Freckles? Not rich enough? It doesn't matter! Women love to be surprised, and falling for the guy that they never thought they would is a great one!
You know that you are an attractive, desirable guy with a lot to offer the woman you want. So what if she never thought about dating a plumber? So what if she's used to blond guys? What you have to offer her is something DIFFERENT, something adventurous, something against her usual predictable type. That's a selling point--not a downer!
But you've got to have the confidence to erase from your mind any doubting thoughts. Forget any preconceived image of the guys she usually dates. You can give her what she hasn't had from any of those other guys--because you're not like them.
Now, you've got to make her aware of what she's missing. If you play music, and she always dates guys who plays sports, drop hints about the cool things that you and your buddies do. Invite her to come along to a jam session. Intrigue her about this aspect of life that she hasn't experienced. If you come from a different background, talk about the cool traditions you have in your culture. Get her excited about this whole other world that she's never known.
Whatever you do, DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF, and DON'T WAIT FOR HER APPROVAL. Never think for one second that you're not good enough for her because she only dates rich guys. Men who require validation are UNATTRACTIVE to women.
A woman will notice if a guy changes himself to fit what he imagines her type to be. So DON'T DO IT. You'll only embarrass yourself, and you'll often find that she'll keep ignoring you anyway. Remember--if a guy is right, a girl will throw her preconceived notion of "her type" straight out the window.
That guy could be you! You just have to have the CONFIDENCE to ignore the "type" and the PERSONALITY to be who you are--and let her in on the great stuff she's been missing all this time.
Another extremely important secret becoming irresistible to women is to become a master of the "tantalize" technique.
I asked her, "But what about the only blonde’s thing?"
"Who cares?" she said, with a huge grin on her face. "Lee is cool, and cocky, and confident, and great. Why would I even think about his hair color?"
Jessica, like many women, had some idea of what she found attractive in guys, but she was willing and open to let those preferences slide when she found someone with the perfect personality for her. Jessica found that what she thought she liked and what she actually liked were two different things. Some women may think that they have to have a guy with a certain trait. They may only date jocks, or guys with black hair, or guys with a certain height. But attraction doesn't work that way.
The lesson of the story is this. DON'T LET A WOMEN'S PREFERENCES AFFECT YOU IN ANY WAY.
Bald? Too short? Freckles? Not rich enough? It doesn't matter! Women love to be surprised, and falling for the guy that they never thought they would is a great one!
You know that you are an attractive, desirable guy with a lot to offer the woman you want. So what if she never thought about dating a plumber? So what if she's used to blond guys? What you have to offer her is something DIFFERENT, something adventurous, something against her usual predictable type. That's a selling point--not a downer!
But you've got to have the confidence to erase from your mind any doubting thoughts. Forget any preconceived image of the guys she usually dates. You can give her what she hasn't had from any of those other guys--because you're not like them.
Now, you've got to make her aware of what she's missing. If you play music, and she always dates guys who plays sports, drop hints about the cool things that you and your buddies do. Invite her to come along to a jam session. Intrigue her about this aspect of life that she hasn't experienced. If you come from a different background, talk about the cool traditions you have in your culture. Get her excited about this whole other world that she's never known.
Whatever you do, DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF, and DON'T WAIT FOR HER APPROVAL. Never think for one second that you're not good enough for her because she only dates rich guys. Men who require validation are UNATTRACTIVE to women.
A woman will notice if a guy changes himself to fit what he imagines her type to be. So DON'T DO IT. You'll only embarrass yourself, and you'll often find that she'll keep ignoring you anyway. Remember--if a guy is right, a girl will throw her preconceived notion of "her type" straight out the window.
That guy could be you! You just have to have the CONFIDENCE to ignore the "type" and the PERSONALITY to be who you are--and let her in on the great stuff she's been missing all this time.
Another extremely important secret becoming irresistible to women is to become a master of the "tantalize" technique.
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