MAKING A FIRST IMPRESSION THAT LASTS

MY friend Bob goes to the gym all the time.  He got to know a girl there, and, after a few weeks of bantering back and forth, asked her on a date.  She said yes.  When he went to pick her up, he wore track pants and a t-shirt, thinking that, as they always saw each other in workout clothes, he could wear what felt most comfortable. Instead, she met him at the door wearing black slacks and a low-cut blouse.  It was an uncomfortable evening ... and she avoided him at the gym ever since.

It doesn't matter if you've seen a woman a hundred times before. On your first date, appearances matter.  The effort you put into your appearance tells a woman how much effort you are willing to put into wooing her.  What she perceives of you in the first few minutes of your encounter could make the difference between a second date and a miserable evening.

Most guys know the basics: shower, shave, get rid of that unborn, eliminate any nose hairs, never forget deodorant, and invest in a nice cologne (that you NEVER apply excessively--you don't want to assault her nose, so less is more).  Get your hair cut regularly and invest in a more expensive style if you can.  Hair that flops in your face can completely change your appearance ... and not necessarily in a good way.

What most guys don't know is that what they wear tells a girl a lot about the effort they're willing to make for her.  If a guy shows up in blue jeans and a t-shirt, it means that he could care less what she thinks.  If he invests in a stylish shirt and hundred-dollar jeans, she WILL notice.  Women have a keen fashion sense, and they can tell when a guy has invested money on what he wears.

I'm not telling you to blow the bank on a dozen killer outfits.  What I am telling you is to blow a few hundred on ONE killer outfit--because one outfit can be all it takes.  Women can be harsh critics on the first date, but once she decides she likes what she sees, she'll be much more willing to accept 501s on the second date.

NEVER buy clothes that aren't you, however.  Think about your normal style.  Maybe you prefer khakis and button-up shirts; maybe all your clothes are by Nike.  Now, ratchet up the style factor a notch.  Browse the high-end shops for stylish duds; take a female friend whose advice you value.  Wear the outfit at least once before you try it on a first date to make sure that you can pull it off.

Be careful that you don't invest in clothes that are so stylish that they're quickly outdated or turn your date off.  You don't want to scare her ... and you want to be able to wear this a few times.  Classic lines with a stylish cut are the best.  And don't forget the shoes to impress!

Now, act the part.  You look like a million bucks.  BELIEVE that you're a movie star ... with the ego of an average, lovable Joe. Stand up straight, look her in the eye, and let your charm flatter her into date number two.  If you are enjoying yourself and having a good time, she will, too!  But if you are nervous and lack self-confidence, she'll become more shy and hard to tease out.

In a survey about the attributes that are most attractive and unattractive in a potential partner, several hundred single men and women compiled the following list.

What Makes a Good First Impression:
warmth, sense of humor, imagination, confidence, success, fitness, individuality, body language, conversational ability, aspiration, power, creativity, kindness.

What Makes a Poor First Impression:
self-centered, closed minded and judgmental, lack of manners, poor conversational ability, negative life attitude, lack of education, immature, indecisive, no opinions, lack of integrity, war stories from past relationships, complaining, shallowness, only interested in sex, power games, manipulation, materialistic.

You can never know exactly what a woman will like, want, or need when you first meet her, but you can make a good first impression. If you leave her with a positive image of you, you can almost guarantee that you will hear from her again.  Just remember that she already agreed to have a first date with you.  She wants to like you and find a happy and confidant partner with whom to share her life.  If you make her feel good when she is with you, you will see good results.

The idea is to show your personality right from the first date. Take her out for a night like no other and show your personality from the word "go." Dinner and a movie, one of the classic first dates, is also one of the most boring and can be an easy way to end a relationship before it's even begun.

So what is the perfect date?  A perfect date should show your personality and not lead to awkward silences. Activity-based dates are great if you don't really know your date all that well. You will find out a lot about the other person without the discomfort and expectations of traditional first dates.  Try go-carting or miniature golfing or any fun activity that will quickly build a rapport between you and your date and make you feel comfortable together.

Unique, personal dates will guarantee higher dating success.  Both you and your date will have a more comfortable, enjoyable time, and she'll be so impressed that she'll want to see what you'll think up for the next date and beyond!

Following a guide like this beats spontaneity hands-down, because nothing appeals more to women than a guy who takes the time to organize a romantic, fun, original date ... rather than the uninspired and quickly-forgotten movie and dinner date with a side dish of awkward silence.

So remember ... plan your dates, first impressions matter, and don't forget that how you approach that crucial first date may be the difference between meeting the woman of your dreams or sitting at home by yourself on a Saturday night.

Source: www.000relationships.com/towomen

HOW TO MAKE SURE WOMEN KNOW YOU'RE AVAILABLE

I noticed a strange thing a few years back. Every time I went out with my co-workers, no one came up to me or glanced my way. But when I went out to the very same places with my friends, who are all guys, I'd get tons of lingering glances and inviting looks.

Why? The answer astounded me. When I was with a few other male friends, women knew that I was single. My group of co-workers, on the other hand, included both men and women. Since we all worked together, we all sat together. Single women looking my way would assume that, because I was sitting with female co-workers, I was taken.

When meeting strangers, it is natural for people to assume that if a man and a woman sit together they are a couple. If you often go out with your best female friends or co-workers, you may be losing opportunities because people are getting the wrong impressions.

Here are some things to do to make it clear to people that you are available.

1. If you are seriously looking to meet someone new, avoid going out in mixed-gender groups. Go out with your few closest male buddies.

2. If you are in a large group that includes women, try to seat yourself in a corner with only men around you. Make sure to tell the women in the group about your plan, so that they don't feel as if you're trying to ignore them. In fact, if you tell them that you're trying to meet someone new, they just may make it their mission to help you out!

3. If a girl that you like sees you in the company of another woman, ALWAYS mention that the other woman is just a co-worker, friend, or sibling. Don't wait for her to ask. Most women have a firm respect for other women's territory. If a girl thinks that you are attached, she won't send out any signals that she finds you attractive ... even if she does.

4. Keep your female friendships purely platonic. Make some space, don't lean in close, or sit too close together. If you feel like it is not too rude, keep your body turned slightly away from your friend and towards the crowd. Make sure that your friend knows what you are doing so that she does not feel offended. Avoid "jokingly" flirting, as it can be difficult for a stranger to distinguish from real flirting.

5. No matter what sort of group you're in, leave your table and wander through the crowd as much as possible. When you are alone, you are often much more approachable. Be the one who gets the drinks from the bar, and take your time doing so. Look over the crowd as you wait with a light, confident smile. If a girl is looking at you, you just might catch her eye.

6. Always have a good time. Women are drawn to positive energy; they want to be part of the fun. If you're the guy who's having the great time at the table in the corner, women will notice you. However, it will be up to you to sit back from the group every so often and look quietly around the room, in order to see if anyone is looking at you in hopes of catching your eye.

One of the best secrets for drawing women to you is to use the "tantalize" technique. Details about this and much, much more indispensable knowledge are contained in his book, "How to Be Irresistible to Women

Source: www.000relationships.com/towomen

A Practical Exercise For Approaching Women (Part 2)

A couple of days ago I assigned you with an exercise on approaching women. I asked you to approach at least three to five women a day and ask them for directions.

Today I am going to give you a second exercise. This time, I would like you to sit at a location where you can see a lot of women walk by. Have a pen and notepad ready in your hands.

 Every time you see a woman walk by, I want to you do a quick body scan and notice something "special" about her. For example, she might be wearing a cute pair of earrings or a shirt with an interesting slogan. Or maybe her heels keep making clinking sounds as she walks. It doesn't matter what that something is. Just find something that intrigues you and write it down. Then think about what you would say about that "special something" if you were to meet the woman. Write that down too.

 Do this with at least 50 women. You'll see why later, when I give you your next exercise in 2 days!

P.S. I will explain the "reasoning" behind these exercises very soon. Just do them for now and hear the explanations later. They'll work better this way!

Source: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html

Conversation Starters part2

Here are some other conversations starters that you might wish to ask.  If any of these questions seem to strike a nerve, quickly move on.  NEVER push an issue.  You might sense that there is more to a topic than she wants to tell you at this point, and that's okay.  The point is to make her feel comfortable and open up to you, NOT to make her feel uncomfortable and tense.

Starter #1:
"Do you have a pet?  What's your favorite kind of pet?"

This should start up a lively conversation, because people LOVE their pets and love talking about them.  If she doesn't have a pet, you might wish to ask, "Really? Why not?"

Conversation Starter #2:
"That's a cool watch/necklace/pair of shoes.  Where did you get it?"

The amount of time women spend preparing for dates is enormous.  Most women choose everything they wear with careful deliberation.  When you notice the effort they've put in and ask about something they've chosen to wear, they will feel flattered and appreciated ...as well as get to talk about their clothes and accessories, which every girl enjoys.

Conversation Starter #3:
"Have you ever done X?"

It is important to establish common ground on your first date and find some common interests.  By asking her if she's ever done something that you are knowledgeable about or enjoy doing, you can find out what you have in common.  Just don't use the question as a platform to go on and on about your OWN interests--no matter how interested she seems to be.  Women know how to act interested, even if they're not.  Mention your own hobbies, and then move on to finding out more about her.

Conversation Starter #4:
"Do you follow any sports teams?""

This can be a tricky question, because men are notorious for being sports buffs.  Many women don't want to be with a guy who will blow them off when their favorite team is playing on a Saturday afternoon.  However, if she does follow a sports team, you may find that you'll have an instant connection, and you'll be able to surprise her with tickets to her favorite team later down the line.

Conversation Starter #5:
"Have you ever been to Y?"

Everyone likes talking about places they've been.  Ask her if she has ever been to a local hotspot that you enjoy.  Maybe it's a club, a coffee shop, a museum, or even a park or hiking trail.  If she hasn't been there, and you are hitting it off by that point, you can use the question as a springboard for asking her out on a second date!

Good luck!  I hope that these conversation starters give you an edge to sweep the next woman you meet off her feet.  I give you many more chapters on other incredibly important traits that will make women find you extremely attractive.

Source: www.000relationships.com/towomen

Conversation Starters part1

She's standing at the door, dressed in a little black dress that makes you want to stare at parts you shouldn't.  You've got the first ten minutes covered--introducing yourself, getting into the car, driving to the restaurant or café or other venue, finding a place to sit.  Then you find yourself sitting across from her.  She looks at you with that blank expression that tells you nothing at all.  Your palms start to sweat.  You wonder if you remember to put on cologne, or if you checked for anything in your teeth before you left the house.  The silence grows longer.  You wish the waiter would come for your order.  A quick sigh tells you that she's getting bored.  You curse to yourself.  At the next table you catch a glimpse of a couple laughing; the guy is telling a story, and she is leaning forward to catch every word.  That guy could be you ...if you only knew what to say.

Don't get caught without conversation starters on a first date! The guys who can wow a woman from the moment they meet her all know a secret: women love funny, relaxed, attentive guys who want to hear all about them.  There is nothing that a woman finds more flattering than to be asked about her opinions, feelings, and life experiences.

So when you find yourself in a situation where the silence starts to grow, ask a question!  What do you want to know about this woman?  I will warn you right now: she'll notice immediately if you're not really interested in her response.  If you want to get to know a woman better, you need to show how interested you are in her.  Better yet, when she shares her accomplishments and hobbies, you will find yourself in a perfect situation to compliment her ... and complimenting a woman will suddenly make you much more attractive in her eyes.  The least attractive guy in the world can find himself swarmed with women if he simply does two things: appreciates them and lets them know it.

When you're on a first date, remember the following tips.

1.  Keep all conversation positive.  Never bring up negative things, like how hard your life is right now, how you've been seeking for a job for months, or how complicated things are with your parents.  Avoid controversial subjects until you get to know the person better.

2.  Relax!  Women can sense fear and nervousness, even if you think you're hiding it well.  When you are nervous, you often speak faster, and you may appear more serious or intense than you usually are.  You may want to try watching a comedy, reading cartoons, or doing whatever makes you double over in uncontrollable laughter before your date.  Laughing will relax all your muscles, send good feelings to your brain, and get your blood pumping.  You'll meet her with a great big smile on your face--and she'll respond.

3.  When she is talking, lean forward, look into her eyes (not down at her chest), and respond to what she says.  If you agree, smile and nod.  If she's talking about something serious, take it seriously.  DO NOT lean back in your chair and look around the restaurant as she talks.  DO NOT stare at her so intensely that she feels uncomfortable.  Give her the space to look back at you by occupying yourself with your plate of food, or by gazing at a spot on the tablecloth while you focus on listening to her.

4.  Don't ask the same old questions, as if you're going through a checklist.  Everyone gets asked what they do or where they're from. Try some questions that she's never been asked before.  If you can, focus the question on something that you've noticed about her specifically.  For example, if she walks particularly gracefully, you might ask her if she's been a dancer.  Not only will she feel flattered, but the question will give her the opportunity to talk about whether she likes dancing ... which might lead to an invitation for a second date later on in the night.

Worried about YOUR looks?

How often have you seen a movie on television or in a magazine and caught yourself thinking, "I wish that I could look like that"? Maybe you've thought that if you only had the rock solid abs that the guy on television has, you'd be able to pick up any chick you wanted.

Today's culture is obsessed with the body: how big it is, how muscular it is, and especially how fat or thin it is.  There is a perception that if a guy isn't going to the gym and downing protein shakes, women won't look twice at him.  Many guys spend hours a week trying to get rid of that last pinch able inch of fat on their body, thinking that a perfect body will make them into the ultra male that women will lust over.

Hey ... don't always believe the media.  The number of guys with movie-star bodies is few--that's why there are so few movie stars out there.  The vast majority of guys is perfectly ordinary and STILL gets the girl.  No matter what body type you've got, there's a girl out there who is going to be so turned out by YOU that she'll be thinking of ways to get you out of your clothes.  Think I'm wrong?

I've talked with a lot of women about the kind of male body they prefer, and the things they told me may surprise you.  Men tend to place a lot of importance on having a good-looking partner. It is a sign to others of our status, and it feeds our egos and self-image. Women, on the other hand, tend to place more importance on personality rather than looks. Biologically speaking, women need a guy that is healthy, sensitive, caring and dependable, so that they have a good family environment when the time comes. It's pretty logical: women don't want men that will screw them around.  Looks do come into the equation, but for most women, they come much further down the list of favorable attributes in men.

Most good-looking women like to be the star of their relationship. This is good news for all of us guys that don't have movie star looks. All you need to do is be caring, honest and funny. Women prefer fun guys to guys that are stuck on their looks.  If a guy can't choose between the gym and her, she'll leave him for a guy that picks her every time.

I am not saying that you should give up the gym and start taking up ballroom dancing.  (Although dancing is great exercise)  What I am saying is that you have to reevaluate your priorities.  If you think that exercise, dieting, and even getting on "Extreme Makeover" is the only way you'll ever get a girl, you need to think about what you have to offer a woman.  Giving her a perfect body is a great gift, but chances are she'd love to have a guy who's happy, who makes her laugh, who shares fun experiences with her, and who makes her life exciting--even if he's a bit too skinny/chubby/pale/ etc.

You have an obligation to yourself to be healthy, but you don't need to look like those guys in the magazines or on television. You've got unique qualities that will turn on a woman without having to flash your pecs.  If you really are interested in getting into bodybuilding and pumping yourself up, by all means go for it. But do it for yourself--not because you think it's the only way women will notice you.  Looks may be the first thing a woman notices, but good looks won't keep her around unless you've got a great personality to keep her interested and coming back for more.

So stop focusing on your looks and blaming your appearance for your lack of success with the girls.  If a bald guy with a toupee could marry a supermodel, then clearly there's a lot more to attraction than looking like Brad Pitt!

I give you many more chapters on other incredibly important traits that will make women find you extremely attractive, such as how to make women fall in love with you, how to be funny, the "tantalize" technique for seducing women, and more!

Source: www.000relationships.com/towomen

What to do if YOU aren't HER type

A female friend of mine, Jessica, used to only like blond-haired, blue-eyed guys.  Then she met Lee, a half-Chinese guy, who blew her away from the moment she met him.

I asked her, "But what about the only blonde’s thing?"

"Who cares?" she said, with a huge grin on her face. "Lee is cool, and cocky, and confident, and great.  Why would I even think about his hair color?"

Jessica, like many women, had some idea of what she found attractive in guys, but she was willing and open to let those preferences slide when she found someone with the perfect personality for her.  Jessica found that what she thought she liked and what she actually liked were two different things. Some women may think that they have to have a guy with a certain trait.  They may only date jocks, or guys with black hair, or guys with a certain height.  But attraction doesn't work that way.

The lesson of the story is this.  DON'T LET A WOMEN'S PREFERENCES AFFECT YOU IN ANY WAY.

Bald?  Too short?  Freckles?  Not rich enough?  It doesn't matter!  Women love to be surprised, and falling for the guy that they never thought they would is a great one!

You know that you are an attractive, desirable guy with a lot to offer the woman you want.  So what if she never thought about dating a plumber?  So what if she's used to blond guys?  What you have to offer her is something DIFFERENT, something adventurous, something against her usual predictable type.  That's a selling point--not a downer!

But you've got to have the confidence to erase from your mind any doubting thoughts.  Forget any preconceived image of the guys she usually dates.  You can give her what she hasn't had from any of those other guys--because you're not like them.

Now, you've got to make her aware of what she's missing.  If you play music, and she always dates guys who plays sports, drop hints about the cool things that you and your buddies do.  Invite her to come along to a jam session.  Intrigue her about this aspect of life that she hasn't experienced.  If you come from a different background, talk about the cool traditions you have in your culture.  Get her excited about this whole other world that she's never known.

Whatever you do, DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF, and DON'T WAIT FOR HER APPROVAL.  Never think for one second that you're not good enough for her because she only dates rich guys.  Men who require validation are UNATTRACTIVE to women.

A woman will notice if a guy changes himself to fit what he imagines her type to be.  So DON'T DO IT.  You'll only embarrass yourself, and you'll often find that she'll keep ignoring you anyway.  Remember--if a guy is right, a girl will throw her preconceived notion of "her type" straight out the window.

That guy could be you!  You just have to have the CONFIDENCE to ignore the "type" and the PERSONALITY to be who you are--and let her in on the great stuff she's been missing all this time.

Another extremely important secret becoming irresistible to women is to become a master of the "tantalize" technique.

Source: www.000relationships.com/towomen

How Women Fall In Love

Today, I'm going to propose to you an outrageous theory.

    I want to tell you that we fall in love when we're NOT in our crush's presence.   

    Remember the last time you fell in love with a girl?How did it happen?

    If I am correct, I bet you had felt an attraction for her as soon as you saw her. But after you had gone home...you couldn’t help but to think about her more and more...and as you thought about her more and more...and imagined yourself in all sorts of romantic situations with her...you suddenly realized that you are in love...

    Does that sound familiar?

    I think a similar process happens with women. When they meet a guy they like, they may feel an attraction for him. But they ONLY fall in love LATER when they are NOT in the guy's presence anymore. They fall in love as they later think about the guy and wonder, "Does he like me? Or does he not?"

    Here are a few ideas on how you can use this concept to attract women:

   1) Don't Be Too Available: Let women think about you and fall in love in the process.
   2) Don't Tell Her You Like Her: Let her wonder instead!
   3) End Dates Early: Give her more reason to think about you.

    Good luck with women!


   Source: www.000relationships.com/towomen

The Keys to Keep a Woman Wanting You

Become a challenge.
Give her a little, and then lean back.
Give her the gift of missing you.
Be unpredictable.

When you become a challenge, you gain the attention of a woman's thoughts and feelings. Women are NOT attracted to pushovers! They are attracted to men who are a challenge, who are elusive, who give them the opportunity to wonder about what the man behind the image is like. When you learn to master the "give a little, then lean back" tactic, you will create in the woman's mind a sense of wanting more.  That right ... wants more of you! The fastest way to become uninteresting and boring is to keep giving the new woman in your life loads and load of attention and conceding to everything she wants.  Take some time out; spend a few days doing your own thing.  Let her think about you while you're apart.  When you get a woman to miss you, you create a powerful effect.

The Rules of Attraction

A MAJOR MISTAKE THAT MEN MAKE is feeling insecure. They think that they must call and keep in touch with a woman at all times.  Don't do the same thing!  Men that are unpredictable do something that is almost MAGIC.  Think about the great women-magnets of the big screen, like the character of James Bond or Indiana Jones.  What woman wouldn't want to be with someone who appears one way on the outside yet hides the rugged spontaneity of an adventurer beneath? These guys are never insecure!  That's because they lead an exciting life, and women have to grab hard if they want to hang on
for the ride.

Let me put it simply: when a man understands how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION, then he doesn't do things that are PREDICTABLE, and women will tend to think about him ALL THE TIME.

Things that are predictable don't require much thought. They're uninteresting and boring.

You're going to have to work at this.  Being unpredictable, spontaneous, and interesting will take some thought.  You'll have to break old habits and take new risks.  If you do, you'll discover that women will be FASCINATED and INTRIGUED by you.  Think about it.  What makes a bad movie? Predictability. What makes a great movie? You have no clue what happens next, and the drama keeps you on the edge of your seat. Predictability and BORING-NESS go hand-in-hand with TURNING A WOMAN OFF and are the opposite of attraction.

Here are a few tips:

If you decide to call a woman the next day, be cool, but not too slick.  Don't try to set up another date immediately. Call just to say "Hi, how's it going?" Have a short chat, then end the call before either of you can start feeling your attention wander. Sit back, relax, and be assured that for the next few days she'll be thinking of you!

If you decide to email, keep it short and upbeat.

Never complain, be in a bad mood, or act like you need attention. Keep things cool, calm and upbeat.

Let her miss you.  This is very important.  Think of it as a gift you are giving a woman!  You are giving her the gift of excitement, which is what all women want in a man.

Don't see a woman more than twice a week for the first month.

Don't focus too much energy on the relationship until you decide that you definitely want it to last long term. Don't stop dating other women until you two are officially going out.  When you focus too much time and energy on a woman you have just met, it may creep
her out and make her run, even if you hit it off like a bang at the outset

Source : www.000relationships.com/towomen

How to Keep a Woman Interested In You

She was perfect.  It was just your first date, but you know it. You want to pursue this further, but you don't know how she feels. How can you make sure that she asks for another date ... and another ... and the next ... until she can't keep her hands off from you?

First of all, I'll let you know THREE things I believe:

Most guys who are in long-term relationships are settling due to their previous lack of successes with relationships and their lack of knowledge about how to keep a women.

When you begin to understand women more, you will realize that most women are NOT the type of woman you would want to have a long-term relationship with. There are not many 10/10's out there. If you eventually do meet and attract a great woman that you
really, really like, it is essential that you handle the situation RIGHT if you want to keep her.

How do you know if she's worth the effort?  If you actually worry about things like how long you should wait to call, whether you should send a text or email or pick up that phone, then you probably like her enough to want to see if this becomes a relationship.

Once you've sussed out your gut feeling and decided to go for it, the first thing you need to know is what a woman expects you to do next.  You should know:

If she is an attractive woman, then you are probably not the first man to have shown an interest. She probably has a lot of experience with men wanting to start a relationship.

If she is hot, you can expect that: She has been approached by men a lot! Most men that she dates end up following her around like a puppy dog. She sees a guy who is overly nice as "needy" and is turned off. Believe it or not ... beautiful women are more attracted by men who pull them in, then push them away just a bit, than by men who try to reel them in with all the romantic gestures they can think of.

It all comes down to one simple question: How do you get someone to want something?

Take a minute to think about why people want things in the first place.  Can you make someone want something that they didn't want before?  What are the things that you want, and why do you want them?  Ask yourself why nightclubs have lines of people on the street waiting to get in, even when the nightclub has plenty of space inside.  Why do so many people purchase shirts that are brand name, like Nike or Calvin Klein, when they can get the same shirt without the brand name for less money?

What did you notice about those examples? I think that it is obvious that:

Most people want things for non-logical reasons. People want what they don't have and can't have. They also get bored fast when they get what they want. Knowing that something is available easily makes us lose interest. Stop for a moment and think about this.  Are you easily available? Does she have any reason to want you? 

Source : www.000relationships.com/towomen

 

Should You Get Your Ex Back?

A question that asked all the time is, ", should I get my ex back?"

    Well...it depends...

    If you are thinking about getting your ex back, the first thing you should think about is why you guys broke up in the first place, as in if it was a character or an attraction issue. If it's just an attraction or communication issue, then by all means try to raise the attraction and save your relationship.

    But if you guys had broken up because of relationship drama, such as if you or your ex had too much emotional baggage to be involved with a romantic relationship, then I'd recommend against getting back together. If it was you who had character problems, then fix yourself first and then think about getting back together. If it was your ex who had character problems, then be glad that the relationship is over and don't even think about getting back together.

  

    This will require an objective review of your ex's and your own character. If you're still too emotional to have clear judgment, then here's a simple test: Think about whether your close friends and family hate your ex do. If they do, chances are, there's something wrong with your ex that you don't see.

  

    You should also think about how compatible you actually are with your ex. If it's "just too hard" for you guys to be together, maybe you both would be better off being with someone who'd create less drama.

  

Source: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html

Number One Rule To Online Dating

Here's number one rule to meeting women online:

Get on the phone and then onto a "real date" AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!

Why? Because the Internet is swarmed with what I call "professional chatters" and "professional callers".

"Professional chatters" love to email and chat with you for fun. They may send you tons of emails to tease you about "getting to know each other better". They may even have "cybersex" with you, but they will NEVER give you their phone numbers because they don't know you "enough" yet.

I am not trying to scare you here, but if your cyber-hottie never gives out her number, there's a big possibility that she is:

    - Just fooling around and not too serious.

  

    - Already involved with another guy.

    - A man called "Jerry" who's sitting in front of his computer in his old underwear somewhere in Chicago.

    Then there's the second group of women on dating sites that I call the "professional callers". These girls are better than the chatters. They actually call you up and rack up your phone bill to make you feel like you're involved in a relationship, but they never actually MEET you in person because they don't "know you enough" yet.

Don't waste any time on these professional callers or chatters. Do NOT settle for a "virtual girlfriend". If she doesn't want to meet, then she isn't serious; and if she isn't serious, then don't waste any time on her!

As my sweet old grandmother used to say...

    "If you can't see her or touch her...then SHE ISN'T REAL!"

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