In the past week, I have given you three exercises on approaching women on the streets. I have also promised you that I will fully explain the concepts behind each exercise, and that is what I am going to do today.
Here are the answers to some of the questions that I have received from my readers regarding the three exercises:
Question #1: "I've heard that women may think you're dangerous if you ask them for directions. Isn't that right?"
My Answer: This is YOUR perception of the world, and YOUR perception of the world is NOT necessarily correct. For example, if you walk into a room and a group of women start laughing, you're probably going to think they are laughing at you - even if they are not. Part of the purpose of the first exercise is to show you the REALITY - that most women are NOT going to be mean to you when you approach them.
Question #1: "I've heard that women may think you're dangerous if you ask them for directions. Isn't that right?"
My Answer: This is YOUR perception of the world, and YOUR perception of the world is NOT necessarily correct. For example, if you walk into a room and a group of women start laughing, you're probably going to think they are laughing at you - even if they are not. Part of the purpose of the first exercise is to show you the REALITY - that most women are NOT going to be mean to you when you approach them.
Question #2: "Isn't asking for time or for directions kind of 'needy' or 'nice'?"
My Answer: The whole point of the exercise is to get you to APPROACH women, not to be "mean" or "cocky" to them or to "pick them up". What I am trying to do is to get you to PRACTICE approaching women so that you can get an idea of what it is like to INTERACT with a stranger you do not know.
Question #3: I found it hard to give a woman the "extra comment" after getting the directions from her. Is this normal?
My Answer: It shows your lack of ability to open up conversation with a woman. This is definitely something you want to work on. Think about it, if you can't even give a girl
a casual comment after asking her for help, you're probably going to "freeze up" when you meet a woman you like romantically.
Question #4: "So what IS the point behind each exercise?"
My answer: The point behind all three exercises is to get you to GET COMFORTABLE with the PROCESS of approaching women with minimal "risks". If I had asked you to go out and pick up 15 women within a week, you would probably have freaked out. But asking for directions, on the other hand, is rejection-proof because a woman can't really "reject" you when you're not trying to get into her pants. As a result, you can focus on the PROCESS of talking to a stranger rather than worrying about the outcome of the situation - such as whether or not she will give you her phone number.
If you had done the exercises fully, you should also have picked up the following observations:
My Answer: The whole point of the exercise is to get you to APPROACH women, not to be "mean" or "cocky" to them or to "pick them up". What I am trying to do is to get you to PRACTICE approaching women so that you can get an idea of what it is like to INTERACT with a stranger you do not know.
Question #3: I found it hard to give a woman the "extra comment" after getting the directions from her. Is this normal?
My Answer: It shows your lack of ability to open up conversation with a woman. This is definitely something you want to work on. Think about it, if you can't even give a girl
a casual comment after asking her for help, you're probably going to "freeze up" when you meet a woman you like romantically.
Question #4: "So what IS the point behind each exercise?"
My answer: The point behind all three exercises is to get you to GET COMFORTABLE with the PROCESS of approaching women with minimal "risks". If I had asked you to go out and pick up 15 women within a week, you would probably have freaked out. But asking for directions, on the other hand, is rejection-proof because a woman can't really "reject" you when you're not trying to get into her pants. As a result, you can focus on the PROCESS of talking to a stranger rather than worrying about the outcome of the situation - such as whether or not she will give you her phone number.
If you had done the exercises fully, you should also have picked up the following observations:
- The more you approach strangers, the EASIER it becomes.
- Not all women are mean. In fact, most women you approach will be very polite towards you.
- Approaching a woman is EASY. The real "obstacle" lies in "hooking" a woman into a conversation.
- Some women are bitches, and that's THEIR problems not yours. (If I had asked you to approach a girl in a club and she had reacted to you the same way, you would probably have thought there's something wrong with yourself - when the problem is really on HER end.)
Remember: What you perceive is NOT necessarily right. All your beliefs about what work and what doesn't work on women may be VERY different from "reality". This is why I keep getting you to do this kind of exercises...so you can see how your own limited beliefs about women and dating may be STOPPING you from getting the girl you have always wanted.
Here's the bottem line: You need to constantly try out NEW things and see what WORKS and what doesn't. Don't let your old "beliefs" stop you. Let your mind expand. Find out what REALLY works with women.
If you want to accelerate your success and become much better at the dating game in a matter of weeks, then I HIGHLY RECOMMEND you to download his Smart Dating Course at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
- Not all women are mean. In fact, most women you approach will be very polite towards you.
- Approaching a woman is EASY. The real "obstacle" lies in "hooking" a woman into a conversation.
- Some women are bitches, and that's THEIR problems not yours. (If I had asked you to approach a girl in a club and she had reacted to you the same way, you would probably have thought there's something wrong with yourself - when the problem is really on HER end.)
Remember: What you perceive is NOT necessarily right. All your beliefs about what work and what doesn't work on women may be VERY different from "reality". This is why I keep getting you to do this kind of exercises...so you can see how your own limited beliefs about women and dating may be STOPPING you from getting the girl you have always wanted.
Here's the bottem line: You need to constantly try out NEW things and see what WORKS and what doesn't. Don't let your old "beliefs" stop you. Let your mind expand. Find out what REALLY works with women.
If you want to accelerate your success and become much better at the dating game in a matter of weeks, then I HIGHLY RECOMMEND you to download his Smart Dating Course at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
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